Thanks to Amber Ludwig for today’s insightful guest post:
We are all winding down the 2011 year (hard to believe it went by so quickly!) and resting up to take charge in early 2012. It is important to really take that time to REST because January is an often hectic month where business owners, like you and me, are eager to expand, build and conquer. We are FULL of inspiration and creative ideas. Many also feel financial pressure from spending a little too much over the holidays, and expansion in business usually requires a budget to play with. Today I hope to provide some tips for consideration to help you through this transition.
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Blog by Tracey E. Bennett, Queen of Conversation
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Remember Ravel’s Bolero from the movie "10"? This video is its visual equivalent. It’ll make you want to grab your honey and KISS! Or dance, maybe in the sheets. The music’s great, too.
OK, turn down the lights, turn up the volume, and bring on the most romantic movie you never heard of.
What are your favorite romantic movies? My top one is American President. Remember when Annette Benning came out of Michael Douglas’s bathroom wearing only his white shirt? Hot! Hot! HOT! Santa brought me a shirt just like it (warm, warm, warm!)
Today’s paper nominates these must-see romantic movies:
- Shakespeare in Love
- The Notebook
- Like Water for Chocolate
- P.S. I Love You
- Love Actually
- Don Juan De Marco
- Say Anything
Feel free to add your favorite romantic movies to the list. Or favorite scenes…
|You’re calling customer service. But you land in a maze — or daze. How do you get a person on the phone? You could get your problem handled in a jiffy if only someone would talk to you.
Here are 8 tips adapted from Reader’s Digest:
1. Don’t push any buttons. The computer will assume that you have a rotary phone and send you to a real person.
2. Push zero. Sometimes that sends you to a helpful soul.
3. Press a mess of buttons.
4. Mumble. It confuses the system and might send you to human land.
5. Speak Spanish. Many operators speak English, too.
6. Select the cancel-service option. It’s easier to hang on to a customer than to get a new one, so the company might bend over sideways to satisfy you. To do that, they have to talk to you, so you’re in.
7. Swear. [I swear Reader's Digest recommends this] because swear bunnies go to the head of the line. [Do try this at home, not on the bus.]
8. *** Go to www.GetHuman.com *** for a list of 900 companies and their get-a-human-on-the-phone numbers.
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How’s your track record with customer service? What tips and tricks do you use to get a person on the phone? Please go the comment section and share your secrets.
Here’s a list of good Valentine’s Day and relationship books. Two of my very favorite relationship books are:
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate – by Gary Chapman. You you only buy one relationship book ever, this is the one to get. It changed me and the way I fill my partner’s “love tank.”
Falling Into Manholes: The Memoir of a Bad/Good Girl – Wendy Merrill. A witty memoir of trying to put the “fun” in dysfunctional relationships. Wendy’s book pitch was funny enough to air on the Jay Leno Show. Look for it on YouTube.
I also enjoyed Elizabeth Gilbert’s new bestseller, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage. This meditation on marriage moves from “We don’t want to” to “Oh, we’ve got to” to “Yes, we want to marry.” It’s warm, insightful, informative, and of course, beautifully written.
And here’s a sexy how-to, hot off the press this month:
Love Her Right: The Married Man’s Guide to Lesbian Secrets for Great Sex! by Dr. Joni Frater and Esther Lastique.
(Click on the blue titles to get book details from Amazon.)
OK, here’s a longer list from Sam Horn. Take it away, Sam…
Well, Valentine’s Day is around the corner.
Are you looking for a book for your significant other? Want a fun “how to” book to either find the love of your life or bring more love into your life?
The biggest-selling book on romance and relationships in the past couple years is:
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment by Steve Harvey. It has almost 800 (!) reviews on Amazon.com and is still ranked in the top 100 a year after its publication.
Here are a few of the other intriguing options out there:
Better off Wed?: Fling or Ring – Which FInger to Give Him? – Alison James
The Man Plan: Drive Men Wild – Not Away – Whitney Casey
What Was I Thinking?: 58 Bad Boyfriend Stories – Barbara Davilman and Liz Dubelman
I Used to Miss Him…But My Aim Is Improving: Not Your Ordinary Breakup Survival Guide – Alison James (A creative, witty author)
1001 Ways to Be Romantic: Now Completely Revised and More Romantic Than Ever – Greg Godek [a classic!]
Finding the Love of Your Life - Neil Clark Warren
Dating and Mating: Reading the Body Language Signals – Darren G. Burton
Stumbling Naked in the Dark: Overcoming Mistakes Men Make with Women – Bradley Fenton
What Men Won’t Tell You but Women Need to Know – Bob Berkowitz
How to Duck a Suckah: A Guide to Living a Drama-Free Life – Big Boom (yes, that’s his name)
And of course, two of the granddaddys:
He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo
That best-selling book by Greg Behrendt not only spawned a movie and a new career as a talk-show host, it inspired several copy-cat books such as:
And, if you want a daily supply of smart posts about dating, mating, relating and romance, be sure to check out the witty, insightful blog by The Dating Goddess: http://www.datinggoddess.com/
The Dating Goddess has a loyal following and has been quoted in the Wall St. Journal. After reading a few of her fun and fascinating books (Date or Wait: Are You Ready for Mr. Great? and You’ve Got to Kiss a Lot of Princes [an ebook available for free on her Web site]), you’ll quickly understand why she’s a popular go-to resource on the topic of dating and mating, romance and relationships.
Visit Sam’s blog: http://samhornpop.wordpress.com/ and friend her on FaceBook.
Have you ever gone to dinner with friends and ordered only a drink or appetizer? But when the bill came around, you got stuck with a chunk of it? How do you pay your fair share—that is, for your smaller portion—without looking or feeling cheap?
#2: Eat before you go, then just order appetizers.
Eating out is about more than food, it’s about the company. Try this just once: Eat a little before you go, then just order appetizers.
Tactical tip: The key is that you must ask if it’s ok to just pay for the appetizers, not split the bill equally. Your line is: “Hey guys, I ate before I came, so is it cool if I just order an appetizer for myself?” Everyone will say “sure, whatever,” of course. And when the bill comes, you need to remind the person who’s figuring out the bill that you ordered a small amount. “Hey Mike, can you just subtract my appetizer out? I’ll pay for that and add tax/tip if it’s cool.” Since they already agreed earlier in the meal, you won’t get pushback.
|If you loved The Tipping Point, Blink, and Outliers, you’ll like Malcolm Gladwell’s new book, What the Dog Saw. It’s a collection of his New Yorker essays. You can buy it as usual. Or you can read all the articles online for f-r-e-e-e-e. You can’t beat the price.|
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A Great Source of Conversation Topics
Do you love to learn? At home? At your own pace? Do you love to talk about what you learn?
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There are three kinds of conversations:
This is a true story about a close encounter of the third kind. It’s one thing to talk to the universe, and another to get a reply.
It happened to Audrey last week. Her home is in New York, but she’s been my Honolulu neighbor for 4 years because she’s taking care of her dad, Charlie, and her bed-ridden mom. I think Audrey’s a saint because her mother isn’t, not by a long, loo-ong shot.
But even saints have needs. Audrey needs to go home to take care of her leaves-up-to-the-ankles-and-covering-the-car property. Its abandoned appearance almost dares a rascal to set a match to the place. When she found out that the “friend” she paid to take care of the yard and mail wasn’t doing his job (talk about a rascal), she cried.
How could she leave her mom, who had fired/threatened/chased off professional caregivers? Would her mom even be willing to live in a hospice facility for the ten days Audrey needed to be gone? Would her mom live through it, or die just for spite?
Dr. Bruce, a handsome young gerontologist stopped by, as he sometimes did. Audrey poured out her frustration. As he was leaving, Dr. Bruce said kindly, “Everything will be all right.”
Audrey said, “I need help, and I need it NOW!”
She dove into the swimming pool and did twenty laps, kicking out her stress.
As she climbed out of the pool, the doorbell rang. “I’ll get it,” said Charlie.
“No, I’ll get it.”
“I’ll get it.”
“No, Dad. Let me do it.”
Dripping wet, she dashed to the front door. Three women in their early twenties greeted her. “I’m Sister Sarah.” “I’m Sister Vanessa.” “I’m Sister Margaret. We’re Mormons, and we’re spending a year and a half in Hawaii doing service. Is there anything we can do for you?”
Audrey’s a giver. She gives generously and rarely asks for anything. She listened to the three women and asked many questions. While she didn’t jump on their generous offer, she’s considering it. Three reliable, eager, and open-hearted women could do the job of caring for her mom for a few hours a day.
Audrey’s aware of the universe’s exquisite timing: She asked for help, finished her laps, and beat her dad—who would have said, “No thanks, bye”—to the door.
Our front door is 200 feet from Audrey and Charlie’s, and I’ll tell you, these three souls didn’t ring our bell.
It reminds me of a plaque from my B & B days:
Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it. – Hebrews 13:2
Have you had a conversation with God/the universe/Higher Ups and gotten a reply? Tell me about it in the comment section.
How to Ask for Help
This comes under the category of conversations with others.
After hearing Audrey’s story on Saturday, I found a relevant web page. Gretchen Rubin, of The Happiness Project, wrote:
One of my Secrets of Adulthood is “It’s okay to ask for help,” and one of my resolutions is to “Ask for help.” Why I find this simple act so difficult, I don’t know. But I know that other people do, too—for example, the excellent Marci Alboher just wrote about how to ask for help.
That’s two kinds of conversations out of three. I hope you enjoyed reading about them. I’m eager to read your comments.
Imagine for a moment that your computer got stolen or crashed. Imagine that you threw out important files and didn’t know it. How miserable would you be?